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"Hafla" at Lidia Dalida's |
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Stepping Out Melodi |
In an era where size and age matters and where youth is preferred to maturity, belly dance offers women of all ages and sizes to be seen and heard. Beauty cannot be measured by just size, skin color, or circumference. Genuine female beauty should be measured by the degree of self-confidence within their own skin.
As a male, father (of both daughters and a son), husband, and brother (of two "mature" sisters), I can appreciate women who are beautiful in more ways than one. You see, bubble gum chewing youth is replaced by knowledge and warmth and insecurity is replaced by the wonderful confidence that they've matured, raised a family, and still can be attractive both outwardly and inwardly.
The belly dancer is not only aware of her own body but she is able to overcome the stereotypes that an obsessed society imposes. She is exposed to minute criticism of her appearance and body. However, these women learn to transcend that criticism. The beaming confidence that follows is absolutely amazing to me. There's no room for the faint. Your body is exposed as is your heart.
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New Me Melodi |
As you know, I love a story and storytelling. One of my readers made a negative observation about belly dancers. You know the typical comment about waistlines, curves and rolls etc., but it really showed how little they knew about this dance discipline and muscles used. Truthfully, it's a different kind of muscle tone because of how they are used and trained. Regardless, women do themselves an injustice with those comments. Woman should not be so harsh with other women. This is hard work both physically and mentally. The beauty of belly dance it includes and not excludes women of all ages, cultures, and size.
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Having Fun Melodi
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No sooner had I digested the negative comments, when one of my dancers informed me about how proud she was and how she wanted to see her new images of herself. She had a major accomplishment and she wished to share it with me. She lost 100 lbs over a period of two years. During that time, she danced and exposed herself to criticism. I witnessed her dance and all I could think about was her confidence and smiles both during and after her performance. So to the women in my life, family, and circle of friends. I encourage you to just be you and let whats inside of you simply be and surface. Take pride in simply being you.